Decoding your Complex Child is a discussion and support group especially for parents of gifted, 2e, or QuASIE kids. We gather on a regular basis to share ideas, get support, learn more about how to help our unusual children, connect with other parents, solve problems, take a break from the intensity of parenting, discuss topics of common interest and get help with specific concerns.
Anyone who is needing some help in their experience of parenting their puggle is welcome. Read on for details, and how to sign up!
Note: Gifted Matters is not offering any groups at this time. Sign up to receive the newsletter to be informed when a new group is being formed.
Why a group?
Parenting a puggle is challenging — not only do they not come with an instruction manual, but you frequently can’t just copy what all the other parents are doing, because their children may not be puggles, or may not be the same kind of puggle. It’s stressful, isolating and intense. Coming together with an exppert facilitator and parents who are facing similar challenges gives a parent an opportunity to get validation for their struggles, collect new ideas and finally feel like they are not alone in this endeavor. Additionally, it’s a very cost-effective way to access professional support.
Who is eligible?
This group is for parents of children who are anywhere from toddlers up through around age 10-12. Parents of teens are welcome, but there are a lot of specific concerns that arise in adolescence that are best handled in a separate group (watch this space for a parents of teens group…..)
What is the format?
We meet weekly on Tuesday evenings from 7 to 8:30 pm for six weeks. The group is limited to 10 participants, and it is closed, meaning that you will see the same group of people every week, and once the group begins, no new members will be added until the next season. This lets participants get to know each other and connect better. Groups are offered three times per year, in the winter, spring and fall.
What happens in group?
Don’t worry – no past life regression or pounding furniture with tennis rackets or primal screaming. This group is about discussing concerns, exchanging ideas, and getting support. Big feelings may come up from time to time, but anything that cannot be handled in group will be appropriately referred to private therapy, either with a Gifted Matters staff member, or with another professional.
Each meeting has a topic to help focus our conversation. We begin with a check-in, to introduce ourselves and to see if anyone has a pressing question or issue they came with that night. We focus on the immediate needs of group participants first, and then spend the rest of our time focusing on the topic.
What are the topics?
Topics are generated by group members and by the facilitator, so as to be certain that the areas that are covered are relevant to participants. Past topics have inlcuded:
- Handling meltdowns
- Finding the right school
- Social skills/bullying
- Deschooling gently
- Parental self-care
- Being gifted raising a gifted kid
- Intro to the neurology of the gifted
- Mindfulness and metacognition
What does it cost?
The fee for the six-week session is $210, payable at the time the reservation is made. No refunds are given for missed meetings, but if there are fewer than six people signed up for a session, it will be cancelled. In that instance, fees will be refunded or kept on account, according to the preferences of the participant.
Where does it meet?
All group meetings are held at the Gifted Matters office in Cupertino:
21580 Stevens Creek Boulevard, Suite 112
How many people in a group?
Groups are a maximum of 8-10 people.
How do I sign up?
It’s easy. If you are a new client, please use the “New Client? Start Here!” link on the welcome page of the Bookeo scheduler (see link below) to set up a brief phone call before you sign up for the group. We want the opportunity to ensure that the group will be a good fit for your needs. Once you’ve had your intake call, you can schedule away! You will also receive a packet of forms via email for you to fill out and bring with you to your first meeting.
If you have ever been a client of Gifted Matters, either in a group or individually, you can go straight to the Bookeo page (see link below) for the group meetings and reserve your seat. You pay at the time of reservation online. When you make your first reservation, you may be emailed a packet of forms, if you have not recently filled any out.
What about confidentiality?
Everyone who participates signs a group agreement, which includes a description of the expectations of confidentiality. In order for the group to serve its purpose, participants need to feel safe to share their worries, show their imperfections and be vulnerable — what happens in the group room stays in the group room, even if you already know some of the other participants, and have a social relationship with them outside. It’s particularly important that we honor the confidences of others in the group, as the world of gifted/2e and/or homeschooling in Silicon Valley is very small.
Anything else I need to know?
Several people have asked if we can coordinate childcare. Unfortunately, Gifted Matters does no have the resources to manage this. We understand how difficult it can be to find and arrange for childcare for our puggles — in fact we’ve toyed with the idea of creating a referral service just for childcare for kids like ours. If any group participants want to pool childcare for their families, that is certainly an option, but it would need to be an outside agreement.
We at Gifted Matters
are excited to be helping create a community, and hope that it is helpful in your journey as a parent of a puggle! We also thank you in advance for what your participation will contribute to the group — this is a gift that we can give each other. If you have any other questions, please don’t hesitate to call at 408-375-9635, or email at
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